Are you stuck? In a career, in a relationship, in a friendship, or in a traffic jam--Stuck with an impression of a tight bond- tough to break! The purpose of these words is just to be able to share not any personal tragedy or situation but simple observations..and experience in different moments of life..
Relationships are a common place to be stuck. As years pass, the instances of difficult unpleasant relationships are on rise. So at least it seems to me. One reason I believe for this is the increasing speed of life and diminishing sense of inclusiveness. Let alone acceptance even tolerance is vanishing. The first type that comes to mind when we talk about relationships is that of a man and woman. The thread of love bond a man and a woman for a life time and many life times. Gradually, expectations are replacing love and leading to intolerance. A man expects a wife to play a woman and sees her as a weak object. A woman on the other hand has expectations that a man cares of her.
When these expectations cannot be met rises conflict and unhappiness. Then, it is a matter of who is physically and economically weaker.
Now, that women are economically stronger than they were earlier, they are able to make decisions to quit relationships that hurt their dignity, their mental peace, and of course are physically abusive in nature.
Today, women can decide to be single mothers but the society is still not open and supportive. In some cultures, in educated families it is a stigma. The point is that to get unstuck, you have to make a decision-either accept the situation or exit the situation. Choosing one of these paths is the easier part the one that follows requires strong clarity about how you want your present moment.
You cannot regret and you must commit to grow and make your inner self strong. You make every single effort to heal the hollow pit that seems to still be vomiting hurt, pain, hatred, anger, and emotions that you are aware rather damaging. These you know lead no where. Instead, sometimes, you twirl round with them and find yourself standing in the same position.
You clearly choose your freedom to misery. You choose to be a happy mother rather than an unhappy parent. You are like this seed that is quietly transforming from a seed to a plant, to leaves, and soon ready to bloom into a burst of colorful flower.
Your focus to change the situation your heart, and mind, leads you to every single method that can enable you to do so both internally and externally. While wondering about the increasing fragility of relationships, there is a tiny voice saying, maybe it is time to learn and grow..
Relationships are a common place to be stuck. As years pass, the instances of difficult unpleasant relationships are on rise. So at least it seems to me. One reason I believe for this is the increasing speed of life and diminishing sense of inclusiveness. Let alone acceptance even tolerance is vanishing. The first type that comes to mind when we talk about relationships is that of a man and woman. The thread of love bond a man and a woman for a life time and many life times. Gradually, expectations are replacing love and leading to intolerance. A man expects a wife to play a woman and sees her as a weak object. A woman on the other hand has expectations that a man cares of her.
When these expectations cannot be met rises conflict and unhappiness. Then, it is a matter of who is physically and economically weaker.
Now, that women are economically stronger than they were earlier, they are able to make decisions to quit relationships that hurt their dignity, their mental peace, and of course are physically abusive in nature.
Today, women can decide to be single mothers but the society is still not open and supportive. In some cultures, in educated families it is a stigma. The point is that to get unstuck, you have to make a decision-either accept the situation or exit the situation. Choosing one of these paths is the easier part the one that follows requires strong clarity about how you want your present moment.
You cannot regret and you must commit to grow and make your inner self strong. You make every single effort to heal the hollow pit that seems to still be vomiting hurt, pain, hatred, anger, and emotions that you are aware rather damaging. These you know lead no where. Instead, sometimes, you twirl round with them and find yourself standing in the same position.
You clearly choose your freedom to misery. You choose to be a happy mother rather than an unhappy parent. You are like this seed that is quietly transforming from a seed to a plant, to leaves, and soon ready to bloom into a burst of colorful flower.
Your focus to change the situation your heart, and mind, leads you to every single method that can enable you to do so both internally and externally. While wondering about the increasing fragility of relationships, there is a tiny voice saying, maybe it is time to learn and grow..
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